Finding the words: why sexual literacy matters

Finding the words: why sexual literacy matters

Another long week, but one connected by a common theme. I had the pleasure of meeting Samantha Niblett MP to discuss how I could support her and Cindy Gallop’s #YesSexPleaseWereBritish campaign.

Whatever your views on pornography, relationships or sex education, the truth is that better sexual literacy benefits everyone.

Harm tends to be amplified when our narratives are constrained by narrow lenses, limited language and an inability to describe what we are feeling, wanting, fearing or experiencing. We cannot meaningfully discuss, challenge or understand our own and other people’s sexuality if we lack the words to do so.

A double taboo

The campaign’s aim of encouraging more open, informed and nuanced conversations about sex is one I wholeheartedly support. I have also been writing on low sexual desire in women, with the focus on helping trainee and newly qualified GPs feel more confident in conversations about women’s sexual wellbeing, pleasure and how this affects desire.

The prevalence of sexual concerns is high, yet sexual health and sexual wellbeing remain subject to a double taboo. Patients often struggle to raise these issues, while clinicians frequently feel underprepared to ask. Limited language and inadequate resources amplify the shame felt by both parties, leaving many people with concerns that affect relationships, wellbeing and sense of self without support.

Language creates access

If we improve language, we improve access. If we improve education, we improve choice. Becoming more comfortable talking about sex creates space for people to be heard without shame.

Whether in consulting rooms, classrooms, research, media or public campaigns, the challenge remains the same: helping people find the words.